Saturday, October 17, 2009

Understanding Relationships

Throughout life we are in a constant relationship. The obvious are family, or personal relationships, but there are many others that are not obviously life enhancing, though bring the fabric of life together. We are in constant interaction with both animate and inanimate objects.

Each of us has a friend/friends who we share part of our life with. Why have we got this person as a friend not somebody else? The answer is quite simple. This person or persons give us something that we need and cherish. They fulfil a need or void within us that otherwise restricts the satisfaction we get out of life. The exact opposite is true because as you are receiving the benefits of this relationship you are also inadvertently satisfying the needs and desires of the other person.

So is a relationship a two way street? Not necessarily. Consider the fridge that is standing in the corner of the kitchen. I hear you say that you cannot have a relationship with an inanimate object. Well consider what benefits the fridge brings to your life. It means you don't have to buy milk everyday, so you don't have to go to the shops everyday, so subconsciously you have a relationship with an inanimate object. The milk is cold as you like it, the vegetables stay fresh etc. Life is good until the fridge breaks down. Then you get to feel angry, frustrated, disappointed. The relationship has broken down

Silly example? Well we can mend the relationship by repairing or replacing the fridge. Same goes for everything else in our life. But each broken relationship affects our mood and outlook and so another relationship we have is affected.

Every part of our lives is built around constantly changing relationships except for the relationship we have with ourselves. And for most of us this relationship is stuck in the past and subsequently we are stuck in the present.

Monday, September 14, 2009

My Husband Flirts With Other Women - What Should I Do?

Recently, I received emails from wives asking about flirting issue. "My Husband blatantly flirts with other women in front of me, and I cannot stand it." Most of the time, it happens at places that they can socialize around such as parties or clubs. Most women say their husbands ignore them and spend the whole evening talking to another lady. It seems that the wife is not existed. What should you do about his flirting habit?

Tell him about this problem
Men or women enjoy looking at beautiful women or handsome men. If his behaviour is way too much, you have to let him know how unhappy his behaviour can make you feel. He may brush it off telling you how sensitive and paranoid you are. Justify the situation yourself, you have to differentiate if he is just only socializing or flirting around.

Let him know you are serious
If he doesn't care or take you seriously, make sure you find a chance to sit down and talk to him again. Tell him how deeply hurt you are when he flirts around with other women. Ask your husband to put himself in your shoes, ask him how he will feel if you start to flirt around with other men as well. If he says it doesn't bother him if you flirt around, just keep your emotions cool. Never show out your emotions by flaring or crying. Answer him very calmly that you will not accept his actions of flirting around and tell him to respect you if he still loves you.

Never utter a word again if he flirts again
You have already told him what he should do. If he flirts again in a party after your words, you have to act immediately with no more explanations. Instead of showing him an unhappy face or quarrel with him over this issue at the party, just walk off and leave the party. This is definitely a better way to scream, yell or nag at him. He will be stunned at your reactions like this and soon you will find him coming after you for another chance.

My husband flirts with other women will no longer be a big problem to your marriage as long as you know the right ways to deal with such cases.

Saturday, September 12, 2009

Does He Want a Relationship? How to Know If He Wants You

Do you feel like you are really falling hard for a new guy in your life? You know that he is attracted to you, but does he want a relationship or are you just someone that he wants to have fun with? If you don't feel that asking him is the right way to find out then here is what you can do instead.

If you have decided not to just ask the guy outright then you probably know men better than you think you do. You have made the right decision, because if there is one subject that men hate to talk about it is romance. This is especially true of questions about whether or not and how much he likes a girl.

But do not despair because you can still find the answer without even having to ask him about it and potentially scare him away. Besides, you should know that actions speak louder than words. Anyone can say anything, but it is the way that a guy acts that tells you if he wants a relationship with you or not.

If the guy in question makes it a point to try to spend real quality time with you, then he probably wants a relationship. When a guy likes a girl he will do whatever he can to impress her and make her want to see him again. However, if he is always calling you last minute to hang out at his place and watch television, then he is not trying hard and not taking you seriously.

Does he want a relationship enough to agree with you when you tell him that you are not going to sleep with him early on? Guys who just want to be with a woman to get her in bed will probably take off once they find out that the girl is not going to sleep with him right off. So if you tell him that it could be months before you are ready and he seems fine with that, that is the best indication that he does want a relationship with you.

Take Control of Your Relationship - Try These Three Tips

Do you feel like you are on a slippery slope down and need something to grasp onto so that you can take control of your relationship again? It is easy to lose control when you are in a relationship, especially when you are with someone who likes to take the reigns and run with them. But relationships require a nice balance if both people are going to be satisfied and content. If you are in need of some tips to help you to take control of your relationship then continue reading....

First, you might have to admit that you are somewhat to blame in all of this. If you have slowly conceded the power to make all of the most important decisions to your man, it may be because you find it easier that way. Likewise, if you have let your man pressure you into giving up your friends and other hobbies that you had before you met him, then you should not have let him do that.

So first, you will have to begin to show him that you are going to change the way that you act with him. If he is resistant, you will just have to be firm and stand your ground. Just explain to him that you are unhappy with the current situation and that you need things to change in order for you to be happy.

You may actually find that he is willing to concede some of the power back to you quite easily. He may even enjoy the relief that he feels from knowing that you will be taking more responsibility concerning important decisions that you both face. He may also miss his old friends and hobbies and be glad to let you go out with yours if it means that he can see his.

Finally, when you are trying to take control of your relationship and you find that your man fights you every step of the way, you may want to consider ending the relationship. Relationships need a healthy balance if they are going to last. If you are with someone who doesn't let you be yourself and who pushes you around, then you need to find someone else who will treat you right.

Can I Really Get My Ex Back? (My Ex-Girlfriend Or My Ex-Boyfriend)

Read on for a strategy:

Are you wondering how in the world am I going to learn how to mend a broken heart? Does anybody know any tips on surviving a break up? Are you listening to the break up songs " To Break up To Make Up" or " Let's Stay Together." Well I don't blame you, lets get ready to save your relationship today with learning some of the best ways to get over a breakup. Improve your chances of winning him or her back or surviving the break up.

Think about what really led you to read an article about a remedy for a broken heart? Well some free advice is always good to help get you on the right track. Did you notice any of the stages of breaking up? Sometimes when you become overly anxious to get your ex back, it can cause that person to pull away, because it is our human nature to pull away naturally. Avoid fighting human nature, because it will only increase the break up pain.

Are you finding yourself calling too much, texting too much, or too many emails. Technology is good for the world, but if we use technology the wrong way, then it cause a long term relationship break up. Does any of these signs sound like you or a you searching for a sad love poem? Stop chasing, and learn a new strategy to win the love of your life back.

One strategy is to start with a completely new fresh approach, I mean look at yourself in the mirror, and tell yourself I am letting go of a relationship. Letting go of the relationship will allow you to focus on yourself and improve your personal life. During this time you must break off all contact with your ex and stop focusing on relationship issues. Remember it takes 21 days to break off the old habits, so you must remain discipline in order for your heart to mend.

At some point your ex is going to experience a change in how he feels about you, as you will no longer be chasing your ex again. Give your ex sometime to miss you, because they will not be certain of how you are feeling, what you are doing, or who you are hanging around. You see your ex can't miss you, if you are by their side every moment of the day. Now you will no longer feel like you have been dumped by your ex.

Remember the strategy is to work with human nature, so the person will not feel like you are smothering. Continue to follow tips on surviving a break up and you will see your personal life style improve. You will also be able to go out and enjoy life everyday, not just only when your with your girlfriend, boyfriend or spouse. Make yourself appear like the person when the two of you first met, play hard to get (but not to the extreme), and you will find yourself healing a broken heart. So, can you really get your relationship back on track with that special someone. Yes you can

Are You in a Relationship? Important Points You Need to Remember to Succeed



What qualities would you currently view as essential in a potential marriage mate?

Good-looking
Friendly
Trustworthy
Popular
Morally upright
Funny
Goal-oriented

There is nothing wrong with any of the above traits. Each of them has its own appeal.

As you mature, however, you begin using your perceptive powers to examine deeper issues, such as those in the right-hand column. For instance, you start to realize that the cutest girl in the neighborhood may not be trustworthy or that the most popular boy in class may not be morally upright. If you're "past the bloom of youth"-the time of life when sexual desires first become strong-you most likely look beyond the superficial traits to answer the question, Is this person right for me?

Will Just Anyone Do? - Over the course of time, more than a few members of the opposite sex may catch your eye. But not just anyone will do. After all, you want a lifelong mate, someone who will bring out the best in you and for whom you will do the same. Who might that person be? Before you can answer that question, you need to 'look in the mirror' and honestly evaluate yourself.

What are my strengths?

What are my weaknesses or vulnerabilities?

What emotional needs do I have?

Getting to know yourself is no small task, but questions like those can get you started. The more you understand yourself, the better equipped you will be to find someone who will amplify your strengths rather than your weaknesses. What, though, if you think you have found someone who is right for you?

Will This Relationship Work? To answer that question, look at your friend objectively. Be careful, though! You might be inclined to see only what you want to see. So take your time. Try to perceive your friend's true nature.

Many who date don't look beyond the surface. Instead, they quickly point to the things they have in common: 'We like the same music.' 'We enjoy the same activities.' 'We agree on everything!' you will look beyond superficial traits. You need to discern "the secret person of the heart."

For example, rather than focus on how much you agree on things, it might be more revealing to note what happens when you disagree. In other words, how does this person handle conflict-by insisting on his or her way, perhaps giving in to "fits of anger" or "abusive speech"? Or does this person show reasonableness-a willingness to yield for the sake of peace when no issue of right or wrong is at stake?

Another factor to consider: Is the person manipulative, controlling, or jealous? Does he or she demand to know your every move? "Possessiveness and jealousy are danger signs," says a young woman named Nicole. "I hear of dating couples who fight because one person can't stand that the other hasn't constantly 'checked in'-I think that's a bad sign."

How is your boyfriend or girlfriend viewed by others? You may want to talk to those who have known this person for some time. They will let you know if this person is "well reported on."

Tuesday, June 16, 2009

What Women Do NOT Want - Stop Being a Chump Now

It's painfully difficult if not outright impossible to understand what women really want. On the other hand, it's painfully easy to realize what it is they DON'T want.

However, there are many guys out there who don't get these vibes that women put out and tend to be surprised when they get ignored, or worse, dumped. If you're one of these guys, read on and find out where you're going wrong...

Approaching women, talking them into dating you and seducing them takes time and effort. You can't afford to mess up. Here are some traits that you should definitely avoid, because girls simply hate to see them on guys. Read on to discover the three traits that women hate...and make sure that you don't have them.

Characteristics That Women Hate In A Man - Stop Being A Chump!

Trait #1. Absence of Passion. If you're driven in life, it shows. Women are always attracted to guys who have a zest; an enthusiasm for life and hate guys who are placid and lacking passion in all areas of life.

If you share your opinions and ideas and look like you're going places, then women will follow you in droves.

Trait #2. Being Mr. Nice Guy. Stop being a friend all the time. "Friends" never get anywhere - they certainly do not get much action as far as the bedroom is concerned.

Here's the interesting part: Most guys tend to become completely non-threatening Mr. Nice Guys around women they like. When they do that, the women tend to see them in a 'harmless dude' manner. And that, my friends, will be the end of that particular story. So no more being Mr. Nice Guy.

Trait #3. Lack of Confidence. Guys who aren't confident of themselves have bad posture and tend to draw inwards too often. Girls hate this. Be confident, and you'll get a girl in no time.